Why do we yearn for unhealthy relationships? Why do we stay even when it hurts? Why do we allow toxic people in our lives??
Most times the answer is simply low self-esteem.
When we don't believe in ourselves and we don't love who we are, we allow people to tell us who we are. We allow people to use and abuse us, because we always feel that we have something to prove and we will never measure up. When its not the truth at all.
So I'm here to tell you a few rules of thumb that you should follow!
1. STOP: Explaining yourself (You do not have to describe all the ingredients in your homemade hamburger to everyone, if they don't like what they see now, when they learn the ingredients they still wont. So don't even bother. I wish I had a burger now.)
2. STOP: Putting yourself down (Its so easy to believe the negative things people tell you so why not turn it around. the next time someone calls you a "dumps bucket" say "wow I am a fashionable item that people would purchase.
3. ALLOW The word NO to come out your mouth (Some people are straight up USERS USE USE USE thats all they know, next tim they need something YELL NO and RUN. Run like your not in a coma!!)
4. REMEMBER: You are good. BAD is an evil word and for some reason you believe you are. (When the word bad comes in it your heard turn it around and it spells dab your not bad your dab... I don't know i thought that made sense.)
5. REMOVE the toxicity out of your life. ( Now don't delete people off Facebook and Insta and twitter, because you might get some backlash. But stop spending time with them! Do things on your own get to know yourself more!)
6. FORGIVE them for hurting you. Probably the hardest thing to do. Some people will never see that they were wrong, but its okay. And there are some people who see where they are wrong but repeat the same hurtful thing. Just let it go. There are just some people that you can not get through to. Its okay not everyone is meant to be your friend.
You are worth it! you are loved you just need to focus on healthy relationships and st wasting time on useless ones!
